"Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing."
According to Gary Chapman's #1 New York Times bestseller book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, there are 5 Love languages. These are five ways that we express and experience love as people.
In this 1995 book that still finds relevance and adoption even now in the 21st century, Chapman suggests that a person has one Primary Love language as well as a Secondary Love Language one. In order to learn what another person's Love language is, one must observe the way they express love to others, and analyze what they complain about most often and what they request from their significant other most often. Chapman also states that people tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive love, and better communication between couples can be accomplished when one can demonstrate caring to the other person in the love language the recipient understands. So in other words, to effectively love your better half you would need to Love them in the way they best receive love and not how you would like to receive love and vice versa , mhmmm.
So Here are the 5 Love languages and what they mean, see if you can spot yours and that of your partner:
I read this book some years ago before I got married and again last year and I must say, both times I was able to take something away and learn more about myself and that has helped me to express and communicate my love needs better and has definitely made life easier for my Husband.
My Primary love language is Receiving gifts and my secondary is Acts of Service. I do believe that I have bit of the others as well but these two are definitely the leading ones.
If you do not know your love language, do not worry, you can head on over to the 5 Love Languages website www.5lovelanguages.com and take the quiz to learn what your love language is and you can also get your partner to do the same so that you know exactly how to love them.
Till next time....
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