Forgiveness will help you move on – The incident or the person no longer has a hold on you. You take your power back, you’re no longer the victim of their action. When we refuse to forgive we remain paralyzed by the people and the actions that hurt us. There is nothing that keeps a person in one place like a grudge.
For your health’s sake – Your mental state is more important than holding that person’s actions against them cause for as long as you hold it against them you are holding on to IT! This means it is still continuously doing its job in damaging and hurting you. If we acknowledge that what they did is wrong and it hurt us then we should not be accomplices by assisting them in hurting us further by allowing our mind, heart and spirit to continuously be destabilized by the actions.
God is in control – Some people may call this Karma. But whatever you may call it, I think it means the same thing, you don’t have to get your hands(mind) dirty with anything, not even a grudge. God is watching. Let the one who is more capable than anyone handle it.
“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, "I will take revenge; I will pay them back," says the LORD.” Romans 12:19
For Your happiness’ sake – Your happiness is very important, it should be prioritized. Resentment is like a poison that eats up on your Endorphins, dopamine and serotonin or as commonly known, your “happiness hormones”. Happiness is a choice, it a series of decision we make daily and that includes forgiving those who trespass against us. So, for our happiness sake, we need to choose us. Don’t fail to choose YOU more especially over the sin of another.
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Mark 11:25
This has been a continuous lesson for me for a few years now, I am happy that I am better at it now than I used to but I am not perfect, I still must talk to myself at times and remind myself of the above points. Once again, for me motherhood was one the factors that convicted me to pay more attention to Forgiveness because I have little humans who are watching me, every step of the way and they will do as I do not as I say and I don’t want my children to grow up to be bitter and unforgiving. I want them to experience joy and happiness and releasing situations and people into God’s hands is one of the things they will have to learn (mostly by observing me) to do to be in control of that Joy and happiness. I hope that if you have people and things that you are holding in your heart you can find the power in you to release them and tap into your authority to fill up your happiness tank.
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